Wondering how to have good, great, or just better sex? Try these tips from research and experts. So you’ve been together for what feels like an eternity and the sex that was once new and fun and exciting has suddenly become, well….not so much anymore. Ready to light your fire? Here’s how to have good sex (or great sex!) even when you feel like things have gone a little stale.
It’s weird that you can be spread eagle and shy at the same time. But these things happen. When you’re being physically intimate with someone, you might think, my body’s doing all the work, so, why do I have to talk? Well, for starters, being intimate means that you’re also being vulnerable with your partner, and that’s not easy for everyone. Which is exactly why it’s crucial you learn how to communicate during sex. Communication during sex can cause a lot of anxiety in people because they don’t always know what to say or when to say it, and how their partner is going to react to said communication.
Discussing your wants and needs with one another has other important emotional benefits. It brings you closer, making you feel safer and more secure in your relationship. It helps you both feel more competent and, as a result, more confident. You no longer have to guess what the other person wants and wonder whether or not you’re doing it right—and neither of you has to “fake it” and pretend to enjoy something rather than speaking up for fear that you will be ridiculed or hurt the other person’s feelings.
2. Fast Or Slow.
To discover the more intense pleasure and passionate intimacy which in a good, lasting relationship, will more than replace the thrill of the new, you have to take your time. Try slowing sex down and savouring each moment and each touch. Foreplay is the essence of a good SEX! It’s better than the ketchup on French fries or the topping on your favorite ice cream.
Pace is also important. And not just to “slow down.” It is an individual difference that needs to be respected and cherished. Some couples get stuck in the differences, and without discussion or negotiation, lovers can inadvertently be making each other unhappy. Sexual pace is important, but communicating about pace is the real key.
3. Keep the mystery alive.
No matter how long you’ve been together, make an effort to be seductive and keep your erotic connection fresh. Put some surprise into the relationship. Break the predictable pattern every so often, This can help keep desire alive.
4. Connect with Your Sensual Self.
When it comes to having great sex, knowing what you’re comfortable with in the bedroom is just as important as technique (or being freakishly flexible.) Feeling in charge of your sexuality is a non-negotiable requirement on the quest to mind-blowing sex, so if you’re lacking in the sexual self-confidence department, now is the time to bone up. Dance around your apartment naked, schedule some me-time with a vibrating toy, buy yourself a hot dress – whatever you do, find a fun way to increase your sexual confidence and awareness on your own, so that you’re better able to rock your man’s world later on.
5. Learn New Sex Positions.
I’ll give you a few reasons to consider. First of all, you never know where a different-than-normal sex position might lead—and while an orgasm might be one of the lucky results of trying something new, it could also simply be a tantalizing way to build things up; a strategy to keep things fresh with your partner; or an excuse to appreciate all the awesome things our bodies can do.